Tonight's episode was about two African-American male preachers who were gay but living a double life. Homosexuality in the black church has been a hot topic lately so thousands of people tuned in to see how Iyanla would tackle the taboo issue. This was the first of a two-part episode and the resounding theme was "live your truth!" Both of these men allowed the fear of people's opinions to hold them and their truth captive. Iyanla says to one of the men, "You don't want to disappoint them [family] but you lie to them?' Wow! These men were masking their truth and living lies to appease other people.
How many of us do the exact same thing as these men? We hide our true self to make other people feel comfortable. We don't speak our truth out of fear of offending others. We basically please everyone else at the expense of our own happiness. And this issue is bigger than just sexuality. We lie about our potential and dumb down our greatness. We settle with fitting in rather than standing out. We lie to ourselves and to others. It's sad to think that many people leave this life either not knowing their truth, not living their truth, or both.
Are you living authentically? Do you really know who you are? Many of us can't gain victory over certain struggles in our lives because we try and conceal the truth rather than allowing the truth to set us (and others) free! People might not like or understand your truth, but they will respect it! I read a quote recently that said, "It's better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not." Ain't that the truth! When I say "live your truth", I am not saying to please only yourself. But, what I am saying is be honest with yourself and the world about who you are, where you come from, and where you're going.
In conclusion, it's important that my truth aligns with God's truth as a Christian. It's a process. This is why the bible says, "Let this mind be in you that was also in Christ Jesus." God knows our truth...the good, the bad, and the ugly...yet he loves us! For this reason, we should be more concerned with pleasing Him than pleasing others. But, before we can please God, we have to be honest with who we are. After all, it's the truth that will make us free... Be free today!