Tuesday, September 2, 2014

The Diary of A Traveling Mom

It's hard enough being a working mom but it's even harder being a working mom who travels! My work in itself is very rewarding but balancing work and home from a distance can be quite the feat. I am extremely blessed to have a very supportive husband and I could not make things work without him! Even as I write this post, I am overwhelmed with gratitude for my husband because there are many men who would not agree to be the primary caretaker while their wife pursues her career. Needless to say, my husband rocks! 

The balance of work and home is a challenge but the greatest challenge is feeling like I have to defend being a traveling mom to other people!

The conversation typically goes like this:

Person: So what do you do?
Me: In a nutshell, I travel the state conducting trainings on domestic violence.
Person: So you travel a lot?
Me: Yep.
Person: You must not be married.
Me: I am.
Person: You must not have kids.
Me: Actually, I have a 3 year old son.
Person: *Blank stare*
Me: I have a very supportive husband.
Person: Wow, ok.

What makes me angry is the double standard that exists where it's okay if my husband travels and I'm home with the kids but I'm looked at as a bad mom because I travel for work. Aren't both parents responsible for taking care of the children? Can't a father be just as good of a caretaker as a mother? My husband gets a lot of blank stares as well because he "allows" me to travel...smh!

I miss my family a lot when I'm on the road but I love what I do! At first, I would feel extremely guilty for leaving them but with time it got better. I think any mom would feel wierd being away from home for days at a time. The travel can also take a toll on you overtime but the rewards of the work far outweighs everything else. I can't see myself traveling forever for work but I am glad that I get to experience it at this point in my life. I think the travel also strengthens my marriage because I have to trust my husband completely. I have to trust that he will hold things down while I'm away (and that he will behave...lol)

My hope is that I can be as good of a support to my husband as he has been to me in this season of our marriage. Marriage is a partnership in which each partner contributes what is needed to be a successful unit. So, one partner might meet the need as it relates to taking care of the children while the other meets the need of paying bills... both people are contributing equally but not in the same way. These roles often change through the various seasons of the marriage. For example, you might start off as the breadwinner while your spouse goes to school but then the roles reverse once they graduate. It's all about meeting the need of the family!

I just wanted to share my thoughts with you. I hope it was helpful in some way =)


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