Sunday, August 10, 2014
Happy Anniversary to Me!
This past Friday my husband and I celebrated five years of marriage! Woohoo! I am so grateful to God because in this day in time, marriages aren't lasting a year. As I reflect on my five years of marriage, I see God's favor and restoration. I wish I could tell you that the past five years have been nothing but joy but that would be a lie. My journey has been full of ups and downs, laughing and crying, faith and doubt. I think the biggest misconception we have is that a good marriage is one without struggle or strain. I believe the strength of a marriage lies in the ability to stand in the midst of adversity. I celebrate the fact that my husband and I are still standing!
Here is what five years of marriage has taught me:
1. Anything with having is worth fighting for!
It's just that simple. If you want your marriage to work, you have to give it your all. You have to be willing to fight together and not against each other. Remember...you are on the same team!
2. Choose your battles! Everything is not worth fighting over.
Some stuff your spouse does just has to be ignored for the sake of peace (and your own sanity). It took me a long time to realize this! I could've saved myself a lot of unnecessary stress and anger.
3. It's God's marriage, not yours!
We often make decisions about our marriage without consulting the one who ordained the marriage...God! What does God want? What does God say about the situation? God is the third stand to your marriage and the bible lets us know that a three strand cord is not easily broken. You have to give your marriage over to God completely because he knows how to make it work!
4. Don't give up!
I truly believe the divorce rate in America is as high as it is because we give up too easily. We bail as soon as things get uncomfortable. We live in a generation of convenience... We want everything to feel good to us. We also live in a "right now" generation so we don't know how to hold on during difficult times. Marriage requires both patience and forgiveness.
5. Love never fails!
If you truly love your spouse the way God defines love then your love won't fail or quit. True love covers a multitude of wrongs and forgives easily. It's not always easy to love unconditionally but it's necessary. When you marry, you make a covenant to love! Uphold your vow! You can't just love when it's easy but also when it hurts. Love never loses hope!
God bless :)